It’s not just physical violence. Be aware and stay informed to help end family and domestic violence.
Whilst we often associate family and domestic violence with physical abuse, domestic violence can present in repetitive patterns of behaviour which are emotionally debilitating for the victim-survivor and just as abusive. The aftermath of such behaviour can be traumatic and lead to low self –worth and a ‘shut-down’ from loved ones, friends and family. In the spotlight, are three types of non-physical forms of family and domestic violence.
1. Coercive control
Coercive control is often demonstrated by the perpetrator using a pattern of controlling or manipulating behaviour that leaves the victim feeling intimidated, isolated or controlled. Some of the behaviours victims may experience include: manipulation and deceit, possessiveness of time and attention, control over what they eat, financial control or being denied freedom of movement.
2. Technology abuse
Technology abuse is an extension of coercion or harassment. Threats made over the phone or via text, abuse over social media, someone taking over your social media accounts or tracking your location via a smart device are just some forms of tech abuse. These behaviours are a crime and should be reported to the police.
3. Financial abuse
Financial abuse can happen when a family member or partner prevents someone from having freedom over their financial decision-making, or uses their money without their consent. This includes being forced into giving up control over DVA payments, money withdrawn from accounts or loans taken up in the victim’s name without their willing consent
As an Advocate, being aware of the social environment is important to assist you in recognising signs to family and domestic violence.
What can I do?
The first step is awareness. Understand and identify the different types of family and domestic violence. Second, know there is support for people to stop their behaviour and help for people experiencing violence, including children and elders.
Training
There are a range of training programs available to help you understand your role in stopping family and domestic violence. Further information, including training and how to find a local service, can be found on the 1800RESPECT website https://www.1800respect.org.au/
Remember:
LOOK - for the signs of the different types of family and domestic violence.
LISTEN - respectfully and understand that everyone’s experience is individual.
REFER - to Triple zero (000) in an emergency or 24/7 support service such as 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732), MensLine Australia (1300 789 978) or Open Arms (1800 011 046).
Your own personal safety is important. Where there is any real or perceived danger/threat to life, including your own, please call triple zero – 000 immediately, and ask for assistance.